How We Kiss: privilege on the dance floor is a mini-zine on cis- and hetero privilege, written & distributed by Providence RI-based queers at the “queer animal future” dance party in Summer 2011.
We’ve got free copies of this zine for you! Find us in person or contact theoryandanail@riseupWithoutTheseWords.net for more info — or you can get downloadable + printable files on the f.i.e.r.c.e.n.e.s.s. tumblr.
Here’s an excerpt. You can find the full text here.
It’s not just what you know — it’s what you never have to know. It’s happening every day, at that party or park or potluck, when you can look like what you really are and touch who you really want to touch without feeling like you’re violating others’ expectations. It’s never being forced to examine accepted ideas of gender and sexuality, despite their arbitrary nature. It’s never having to realize that people are seeing you as something you know you are not.
Privilege is about safety and belonging. It lies hidden in identities and desires that don’t need to be justified or defended or even spoken of, because they reaffirm the identities and desires of most of the people around you. Privilege is assuming, before you even get there, that your gender and your sexuality are welcome and expected wherever you might want to go. [ ➫ READ MORE ➫ ]